I'm a mom. I have 2 boys who I don't view as extensions of myself, but rather 2 people who I am responsible for mentoring and providing for their basic needs. Being a mom is not a job, career or occupation, for me it's a relationship. Relationships are as unique as the people involved and I personally think that when it comes to relationships nobody has the right to judge someone else's relationship.
I'm speaking from a very personal place right now because there is a woman who cyber stalks me routinely(once a month I am told) because she wants to ensure that I'm not doing anything that is inappropriate as a mother. She has been critical of my relationship with my son(s) for 6 years now and as much as I wish she would F.O.D. as Green Day so eloquently put it in their song F.O.D. from their album Dookie, I beginning to think that it's just wishful thinking on my part.
So what if I make music with strong language?
So what if my music videos have nudity?
So what if I've taken my clothes off for money?
None of these things a even remotely a factor in my relationships with my sons. I'm not going to justify my "mommy-ness" by posting about all the shit I do that makes me look like a good mom, and believe me there's a lot of it. Why? Honestly because my relationship with my sons are sacred and private.
I'm an artist and a mom, but I was an artist first, so that's why I'm going to continue make art how I see fit and the people who deem it's inappropriate for me to make the art that I do just because miniature humans have slipped out of my vagina can suck my metaphorical dick. That is all.
Now enjoy these deliciously inappropriate stills of me from my last music video Lapdance Romance.
Wow, that's so sad ._.
ReplyDeleteWho is anyone to judge the way another is raising THEIR own? Hun, just throw your finger at those assholes and do your thing! Trust me, I know plenty goths, animators, punks, occultists and people who have their jobs to do, and it has nothing to do with whether or not their a good parent. As a matter of fact, often times, its people like us who are more loving and caring for our kids than the prudes of society.
You're the queen, and the head motherfucker in charge, don't let them get to ya ;D